Those aren't real glasses, they are from Maria's 100th day of school, when she acted like a 100 year old lady. I took this of Veronica the other night before her bath, she is so cute, isn't she? I hope that she does okay in Kindergarten this fall. I only have Maria to go by and Maria has done so well, but Veronica is a different person, SO different, I just don't know. I feel like - what is the point of having all these kids if one never learns anything?
I have to think of it a different way, I guess. They're not robots, they are people and people are complicated. Just because you know one kid who went to kindergarten, I guess it means you know one kid who went to kindergarten. I just - I wish I could get ahead.
Anyway, back to Veronica. She is still going full days on Tuesday, Thursday and every other Friday to school. She loves it but I think she'd still rather go a half day. But, and I say this lovingly, she is a lazybones. I bought a new double stroller because she just refuses to walk places and I like to take walks. I mean, part of growing up is putting on the yoke, as Mike says, and just getting to it. I'm sorry that she is starting Kindergarten and has to go all day but that's how it is. I can't let her not do stuff she doesn't want to do because if I did, she would sleep with me every night, and we'd spend all day with her wrapped around my leg. NO THANKS!
What else. She is fine, she is kind of weird, she is adorably loving and sweet. We are having a birthday party for her in two weeks, she's excited and so am I. It's nice to have a May birthday, I bet, hopefully the weather will be good and we can party outside with all her little school chums.
I know I never update, but there is nothing to say! It's cold out and it's been cold out forever and we are sick of it!
Today is Wednesday so we are going to ballet. Veronica recently moved up to Intermediate Ballet, and she is in a class with only four other girls. Sometimes people don't make it and it's just her and ONE other girl. She is doing really well, although she is not the most serious ballerina I've ever seen. Is anyone, at four? Maybe but not Veronica.
She wants to leave early at preschool. There are kids there who do a 'short day', which is from 8:00-12:30 and Veronica goes all day, which is until 3:00 and which includes Quiet Time, which used to be a nap but after the new year has turned into actual quiet time, during which they can read or play quietly. Veronica is not too into it, but as I was discussing the other day with some friends who also have four year olds, I think she is just being contrary. Yesterday I picked them up and she said she had a GREAT day! I think if she is a little bit tired and can appreciate the quiet time, she likes it but if she doesn't want to relax and be quiet, then she hates it and hates school and doesn't want to go anymore. And, to quote a popular phrase, ain't nobody got time for that. Just because SHE is four years old doesn't mean that I am four years old. I figure it's my job to reassure her that even though sometimes days don't go exactly like you like, you have to keep going because it might get better. Also we have paid for full days and that is what she is doing, ha!
She's kind of weird - she won't go to the movies until she is ten, because they are too loud, she won't get her haircut until she is grown up because it hurts, if she is itchy she licks her hands and then scratches, I mean really. Weird, right? I am letting her let her freak flag fly for the most part, but I told her that she is going to have to cut that licking stuff out once other people start to see it. It looks unsanitary, I told her.
She doesn't like to eat before school, but apparently she gets really hungry around 9:30. I know that because she bugs me and bugs me so that I have to feed her every five minutes around then. We are getting to the point where she is ready to do something all day, every day, but she's not in Kindergarten yet, so I have to keep her entertained and mollified all the other days. It's hard because Felicity is here too and I don't really WANT to look into Veronica's eyes all day and repeat every word she says back to me, I mean, who would? I told my sister the other week, Veronica 'played' Old McDonald on the TAMBOURINE and I had to listen, rapt, to every note. And ps, it DID NOT sound like ANYTHING!
I know. I know I will miss these days. But not yet, right now it all makes me dread the summer.
Ooh isn't she cute? She loves preschool and I love it there, too, she seems pretty happy all the time. Today was her last day of school until the week of January 6, I hope we can keep busy during the break and I hope she has fun. I will be glad not to get up so early and get them out the door. Mike makes the lunches, usually, while I am at work AND he gets up early to shower and get ready for work so he can get them ready too so he is probably looking forward to break more than I am.
I just love this picture, I can't stop looking at it! Maria went to see Frozen this week on a field trip and I could have taken Veronica but she told me she is not going to a movie until she is ten. Movies are too loud!, she told me. She's right, they are super loud, I can't stand it. But I hope she gets used to it before she's ten because there are lots of movies to see.
Things are going well for Veronica. She had a good and fun Halloween, although the night of our trick or treating (the night after Halloween, because we had bad weather on 10/31) she went as a ballerina, a black ballerina, instead of Sofia the First, which she had been for various other Halloween-like costume wearing. I got really sick of Halloween this year and I think they did too - they had two costume parties, a Trunk or Treat thing, and then actual Halloween and we were all finished until next year!
A few weeks ago, Veronica started to say that she didn't want to 'stay late' at school and by that she meant she wanted to leave at 12:30, not 3:00 like she does. She said she didn't want to rest at rest time, that it was too long! Too long to rest!, she told me. I told her maybe do something else, read a book or just have quiet time, but she told me that they had to rest. So I told her that she should rest, what else could I do? But it's not like her to complain, so I was a little worried. THEN one day she told me that the one teacher didn't like her and wouldn't let her do anything and that she thought rest time was too long! So I emailed the teacher and it was like a miracle how fast that teacher called me. I think she called me by the time I got home from picking them up or something! I played the voice mail on speaker phone and you should have seen Veronica's face when she heard her teacher calling, it was amazing. I talked to the teacher and she said oh Joanne, we all love Veronica so much! She said they did run out of time in the one teacher's room so maybe if I could find out what Veronica wanted to do and couldn't do, they would let her do it first thing on Thursday. So the thing was that Veronica wanted to play the xylophone and she did it on Thursday and all is well. Also, she doesn't have to rest anymore, she can just play quietly and Friday she went on a field trip and all is well in Veevsy Voo Land again, thank God.
I felt so happy and - well, like I had done the right thing by emailing her teacher and taking her seriously. Her teacher was so responsive and I felt like Veronica was really happy that I took her seriously. I always tell friends of mine who are wondering if they should contact the teacher, that my mother stood up for me in the third grade when my dingbat teacher said I spelled busy (buzy) and nickel (nickle) wrong. My mom went into the school to talk to her and I will never forget it. So I am trying to emulate her in that and so far, so good.
I mean, really! Look at her! She is so sweet and adorable, I love her like crazy. But this girl, while being very sweet and cute, might also be trying to kill me. Kill me with WORDS. Oh my Lord, she has not stopped talking for the last MONTH. I think maybe it's that Maria went to Kindergarten and now Veronica knows that she's the only one home who can talk? And she doesn't like silence? I don't know but they are going to lock me up if she doesn't even out soon. I am so glad when it's bedtime anymore because at least I won't have to keep my ear stretched out toward her mouth to find out what the hell she is saying. I know it sounds mean, but trust me. It is a LOT of talking. A lot a lot.
Now it's been a month again since I posted. Oh well, I can only move forward, right? Try harder in the future?
Veronica started ballet again a few weeks ago and she is the tallest and probably the oldest in her class! This has never happened. Her teacher told me yesterday that next time Veronica can move up to Intermediate Ballet, so that's great, right? Miss Johanna, her teacher, told me last week that Veronica knows all the terminology so I asked her the other day, do you know what papillon means? (It means butterfly, I know from past ballet classes). Veronica said YES! I DO! I said what and she said ESCAPE! Ha! (Miss Johanna told me that's echappe - so not even close, ha!). She's excited to move up and I am excited too.
She is doing well in school, she has a friend named Franny, although she says she has a FLIEND named FLANNY. She loves her teachers and lately, Mike just drops them both off at the door, he doesn't even go in! How about that!
She is very grown up lately, the things she says are adorable and you can really see her coming into her own as a person, free of Maria. Maria certainly never did anything on purpose to squelch Veronica but she is, in fact, just 16 months older, and she is, in fact, the way that she is, so I know she feels freer and she is really being who she is and it's so cute and so ... inevitable? Or something? When I think about how worried I was about Veronica and how she didn't used to talk very much, it just seems like NOTHING. It doesn't seem to have anything to do with who she is now.